Ask these 21 questions if you want to get to know someone really well

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Ever wanted to get to know someone a bit more, but never been sure of the right thing to ask? Enter the 21 questions game.

We're using the word "game" loosely here as the 21 questions game essentially just involves asking your friend, family member or maybe crush, 21 very important questions that will allow you to dig deeper in your relationship and discover things you never knew about them. Like, er, how far would they make it in a horror movie? And what was their first impression of you(proceed with caution btw)?

To really get to know someone we've rounded up the best 21 questions to ask someone, as well as the best 21 questions to ask your crush, your new partner or some rather cheekier questions, if that's what you're after.

What is the 21 questions game?

The 21 questions game is exactly what it says on the tin, there are no gimmicks or weird rules, you just have to ask someone 21 questions.

It's a great conversation starter with someone you're not close with, or equally a way to deepen an existing relationship, with questions you would never usually ask.

How do you play 21 questions?

It's super simple to play 21 questions, you just need at least two people (although feel free to ponder the questions yourself), and appropriate questions for the setting. So don't be asking your grandma the same questions as you do your crush.

That being said there are a few ways you can play 21 questions:

  • Classic two people - If it's just two of you playing, it's usually fun to take it in turns, with one person asking a question, and the other answering. The person who answered can then ask the next question and so forth until you've asked 21 questions in total. With this version you can also both answer the question before moving onto the next.

  • Classic group - If playing with more than two people, someone from the group will be selected at random and then the group will ask that individual 21 questions in a row. The next person to go can be randomly selected again.

  • Ricochet - In a group setting, Person A must ask a question to any player in the group who becomes Person B. Once Person B has responded they must then ask Person C a different question, once they've answered they'll ask Person D a new question. The game continues until everyone has answered a question. You then go round again until the group has answered 21 questions.

  • Round and round - Again this is played in a group. Person A asks the group a question and everyone in the group answers (usually in a circle formation) before moving onto the next question, until you get to 21 questions.

84 best 21 questions to ask to get to know someone

Best 21 questions

  1. What movie never fails to make you cry?

  2. How would your best friends describe you?

  3. How far would you make it in a horror movie?

  4. If you had the option to press a button and restart your life, would you press it?

  5. What is the most worn item in your wardrobe?

  6. If you could move to another country for free which would you pick?

  7. What food or snack that other people love do you think is overrated?

  8. Which family member are you closest to? And why?

  9. What is your worst habit?

  10. What was your first job?

  11. What's your biggest regret from school?

  12. What's your most memorable dream or nightmare?

  13. Do you believe in an afterlife?

  14. What's the most used emoji on your phone?

  15. Where do you feel most yourself?

  16. Which mythical creature do you relate to on a spiritual level?

  17. If you weren't in your current role, what job would you like to be in?

  18. What inspires you most?

  19. What are people always surprised to learn about you?

  20. What moment in your past do you wish you could experience again for the first time?

  21. Who would you trust to help you bury a body?

Best 21 questions to ask your crush

  1. What makes a perfect date for you?

  2. What gives you the ick?

  3. What was your first impression of me?

  4. What was your first kiss like?

  5. What's your wildest dating story?

  6. Do you go on many dates?

  7. Who's your favourite celeb couple?

  8. How do you feel about astrology?

  9. Do you believe in soulmates?

  10. How important are looks to you?

  11. Which reality TV show would you go on?

  12. How would you impress someone on a date?

  13. Do you think dating apps are a good way to meet someone?

  14. What's your most embarrassing moment?

  15. Who do you trust the most?

  16. What's your favourite thing about me?

  17. What's your go to takeaway order?

  18. If you could swap bodies with anyone who would it be?

  19. What movie series or TV series is perfect for a cosy Sunday?

  20. What's the most admirable trait a person can have?

  21. What's your cheesiest pick up line?

Best 21 questions to ask in a new relationship

  1. What's your love language?

  2. How did your last relationship end?

  3. What do you value most in a partner?

  4. Which city is at the top of your travel list?

  5. What can I do that will always cheer you up?

  6. Have you ever been cheated on?

  7. What would be the dream date I could take you on?

  8. How do you deal with conflict in a relationship?

  9. What's a deal breaker in a relationship for you?

  10. What's something people misunderstand about you?

  11. Do you believe in monogamy?

  12. Would you like to get married one day?

  13. Do you see yourself having kids in the future?

  14. What are you most focussed on right now?

  15. What's the biggest lesson you learnt from your previous relationships?

  16. Who was your celebrity crush when you were younger?

  17. Do you enjoying cooking?

  18. What's your worst household habit?

  19. Are you an early bird or a night owl?

  20. Do you have any insecurities?

  21. What excites you?

Best dirty 21 questions

  1. Where is your favourite place to be kissed?

  2. Have you ever sent a nude photograph?

  3. Have you ever received a nude photograph from someone else?

  4. What attracts you to someone else?

  5. What do you wear to bed?

  6. Have you ever had a sexy dream about someone?

  7. If you could sleep with a celebrity, who would it be?

  8. Have you used handcuffs before?

  9. Have you ever given or received a love bite?

  10. Have you ever faked an orgasm?

  11. What's your favourite sexual position?

  12. Have you joined the 'mile high' club?

  13. Have you ever skinny dipped?

  14. Have you had a friends with benefits before?

  15. What's your favourite sex toy?

  16. What makes you feel intimate with someone?

  17. Do you have any fetishes?

  18. How do you feel about shower sex?

  19. How high is your sex drive?

  20. What's your favourite part of foreplay?

  21. When and where do you like to have sex?

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